Do you have an easy time saying “goodbye” to a loved one? Probably not.
As I sit and write this post this evening, I must confess that my mother’s heart hurts.
We said “goodbye” this morning to our daughter, Rachele and her little baby, Eric.
back to California
Her car was all packed up and ready for her journey back to California.
We said our goodbyes just before we left for church. The day was cloudy with rain on the way. The dreary weather matched my mood.
Just 48 hours ago, Rachele and I (along with Eric) were enjoying a talent show put on by the kids in our church’s youth group.
It was a fundraiser for a future mission trip. The kids served a spaghetti dinner and entertained us all with their talent.
My daughter, Gracie, played piano and did great, even though she was a little nervous.
My son, Kai, and daughter Ruthie (hidden behind Kai), displayed their comedic talents. Or should I say, Kai showed how much ice cream he could eat. Ruthie while hidden behind Kai, served as his ‘hands’ as she prepared an ice cream sundae and then proceeded to feed him. Needless to say, not much ice cream made it into his mouth.
The silent auction afterward was fun and I even won a couple – Starbucks and a Diamondbacks baseball game.
24 hours ago, I was sitting with Eric, enjoying some of our last moments together.
He is almost 6 weeks old and I have been with him for everyday of his short life.
From holding him minutes after his birth and changing his first diaper…
To taking care of both him and my daughter during their 6 day hospital stay.
Rachele came home to stay with us while she recovered from her c-section and we enjoyed her company and holding Eric a lot.
I will miss feeding Eric and seeing him becoming ‘milk drunk’ and I will even miss his crying (a little).
back to California
This morning, I took one last picture of Eric before it was time for them to go. It will be hard to think that we will miss the next few milestones like his first smile.
I remember how sad I was when Rachele first left for the Navy and how I rejoiced when we saw her again when she graduated from basic training.
You can read more about her Navy journey, here.
Then there was sadness as she was gone to Missouri and later Mississippi for further training.
back to California
It’s hard to believe that my little girl is all grown up. You would think that when your child is an adult, that saying “goodbye” would be fairly easy.
Well, it’s not true. I wish it was.
Now it is harder because I also miss my grandson. I realize that I was given a special gift of being able to spend so much time with them both.
While the house seems rather empty with them gone, there are some perks:
– My son, who graciously gave up his room for them to stay in, now gets to vacate the living room couch and move back into his room.
– The Xbox, which was moved temporarily into our bedroom, is now back in his room.
– The kitchen counter is free from bottles, nipples and formula.
– The trash can will be ‘diaper-free’.
– There is more room in the family room with the absence of the baby swing, infant seat and changing pad.
– Nights will be somewhat quieter with no midnight feedings.
While the house is quieter and cleaner, I would trade it all back if I could.
But, the good news is that Rachele lives one state away, 7 hours by car and 1 hour by plane. We already have plans to visit in April, June and September for starters.
I wonder if I can figure find a gardening conference coming up soon that is near her house?
Thank you for letting me share my mother’s heart with you today.
**For those of you with older kids, do they live nearby or far away? How often do you get to see them?
Two New Water Wise Plant Discoveries
Landscape Design, UncategorizedDo you like discovering new things?
I do. Particularly newer plant introductions. New plant hybrids are always being discovered and I am always on the lookout for new ones. I like to use newer plant introductions in landscapes to help give them a new and updated look.
Last week, I told you about my partnership with Monrovia plants and selecting two new plants for my garden.
New Water Wise Plant
While shopping at the nursery for plants, there were many different plants to choose from. As I walked through the nursery, I was tempted by lavender but then a display of Monrovia cacti and succulents caught my eye.
New Water Wise Plant
This tiny prickly pear grows 8 inches tall and 24 inches wide.
It looked so cute, I almost reached out to touch it, but stopped myself just in time.
Santa rita and purple prickly pear are among my favorite types of cacti. I like their blue gray pads touched by purple. ‘Baby rita’(Opuntia basilaris ‘Baby Rita’) is a great alternative for smaller areas or you can group 3 of them together.
The next plant I was tempted by was ‘Lucky Crown’ agave(Agave Kissho Kan). These are small agave that reach 18 inches high and wide. They have beautiful, variegated leaves with maroon teeth along the edges.
I must admit that I was sorely tempted by both of these plants, but I decided on two different drought tolerant plants.
Have you seen any new plants that you have been tempted by?
To see what two plants I did come home with, click here.
2 Flowering Water-Wise Beauties Ready for Spring
Flowering Annuals, UncategorizedWhat does your garden look like in early spring? Does it somewhat boring? How about adding some color and interest to your garden by adding some water-wise flowering plants?
This week, I had a fun project to work on – in partnership with Monrovia, I was asked to select two types water-wise plants for the landscape. So, I headed out to my local nursery with a mission to select from the different water-wise Monrovia plants available.
Once I arrived at the nursery, I was faced with a number of different Monrovia plant choices from succulents, cacti, shrubs and perennials. After a some time going back and forth, I narrowed my choices down to these two water-wise, flowering beauties.
Parry’s penstemon (Penstemon parryi) has long been a favorite perennial of mine. I love the ‘cottage-garden’ look it provides with its pink spikes that appear in late winter and on into spring.
It is quite versatile in the landscape where it can be used in wildflower gardens, planted in a perennial bed or simply placed next to a boulder.
My next plant choice was a flowering succulent.
Blue Elf aloe (Aloe ‘Blue Elf’) is a newer aloe species that is perfect for small spaces. It adds welcome color with its orange flowers that appear in late winter into spring.
I have been using this small aloe a lot in recent landscape designs (like the one above) including in narrow planting beds, in entries and also in pots.
Both of these flowering plants are water-wise choices and perfect for the drought tolerant garden.
I loaded my new Monrovia plants up and started home.
On the drive home, I could see the flowers from my new plants in my rearview mirror and I couldn’t wait to find new homes for them in my garden.
I played with a number of potential locations in the garden for my new parry’s penstemon, but decided on planting it next to a boulder. Plants like this penstemon look great next to boulders where their different textures provide great contrast.
I didn’t have to try different spots for my new Blue Elf aloe – I knew that I wanted it for one of my containers in the front entry.
Monrovia plants can be found at Lowe’s garden centers as well as at many local nurseries, which is where I found mine. You can also order Monrovia plants online. The quality of their plants is excellent and the only problem you’ll have is choosing from the large variety available.
*This post is sponsored by Monrovia, but my plant choices and opinions are my own. Visit their website for more water-wise plant choices for your drought tolerant garden.
Saying “Goodbye” Never Gets Any Easier
az plant lady family, UncategorizedDo you have an easy time saying “goodbye” to a loved one? Probably not.
As I sit and write this post this evening, I must confess that my mother’s heart hurts.
We said “goodbye” this morning to our daughter, Rachele and her little baby, Eric.
back to California
Her car was all packed up and ready for her journey back to California.
We said our goodbyes just before we left for church. The day was cloudy with rain on the way. The dreary weather matched my mood.
Just 48 hours ago, Rachele and I (along with Eric) were enjoying a talent show put on by the kids in our church’s youth group.
It was a fundraiser for a future mission trip. The kids served a spaghetti dinner and entertained us all with their talent.
My daughter, Gracie, played piano and did great, even though she was a little nervous.
My son, Kai, and daughter Ruthie (hidden behind Kai), displayed their comedic talents. Or should I say, Kai showed how much ice cream he could eat. Ruthie while hidden behind Kai, served as his ‘hands’ as she prepared an ice cream sundae and then proceeded to feed him. Needless to say, not much ice cream made it into his mouth.
The silent auction afterward was fun and I even won a couple – Starbucks and a Diamondbacks baseball game.
24 hours ago, I was sitting with Eric, enjoying some of our last moments together.
He is almost 6 weeks old and I have been with him for everyday of his short life.
From holding him minutes after his birth and changing his first diaper…
To taking care of both him and my daughter during their 6 day hospital stay.
Rachele came home to stay with us while she recovered from her c-section and we enjoyed her company and holding Eric a lot.
I will miss feeding Eric and seeing him becoming ‘milk drunk’ and I will even miss his crying (a little).
back to California
This morning, I took one last picture of Eric before it was time for them to go. It will be hard to think that we will miss the next few milestones like his first smile.
I remember how sad I was when Rachele first left for the Navy and how I rejoiced when we saw her again when she graduated from basic training.
You can read more about her Navy journey, here.
Then there was sadness as she was gone to Missouri and later Mississippi for further training.
back to California
It’s hard to believe that my little girl is all grown up. You would think that when your child is an adult, that saying “goodbye” would be fairly easy.
Well, it’s not true. I wish it was.
Now it is harder because I also miss my grandson. I realize that I was given a special gift of being able to spend so much time with them both.
While the house seems rather empty with them gone, there are some perks:
– My son, who graciously gave up his room for them to stay in, now gets to vacate the living room couch and move back into his room.
– The Xbox, which was moved temporarily into our bedroom, is now back in his room.
– The kitchen counter is free from bottles, nipples and formula.
– The trash can will be ‘diaper-free’.
– There is more room in the family room with the absence of the baby swing, infant seat and changing pad.
– Nights will be somewhat quieter with no midnight feedings.
While the house is quieter and cleaner, I would trade it all back if I could.
But, the good news is that Rachele lives one state away, 7 hours by car and 1 hour by plane. We already have plans to visit in April, June and September for starters.
I wonder if I can figure find a gardening conference coming up soon that is near her house?
Thank you for letting me share my mother’s heart with you today.
**For those of you with older kids, do they live nearby or far away? How often do you get to see them?
A New Cactus Cutting Finds a Home
Cactus/Succulents, UncategorizedDo you have a plant that you have wanted to add to your garden?
I have wanted a certain cactus for my own landscape for a long time and earlier this week, I found myself bringing a cutting of my favorite cactus finally home.
I was so excited that instead of putting it in the back of my car, I strapped it into the front seat for the ride home – I don’t recommend doing it that way for a cactus with thorns 🙂
In my work as a horticulturist, I have been fortunate to have picked up cuttings of certain cacti. Often, the cuttings result from pruning and it’s not unusual to see some left at the curb for trash pick up.
While I have planted a purple prickly cactus and a Mexican fence post from cuttings, I was still missing my favorite cacti in my garden.
I have often used totem pole cactus ‘Monstrosus’ (Lophocereus schottii ‘Monstrosus’) in my designs. I love its knobby shape and the fact that it is thornless.
What I don’t like about them is their price – a 1 1/2 ft. section can cost up to $40.
So you can imagine my reaction when I was visiting a client and came up upon this sight…
Seeing so many different types of cacti cuttings, just ready for planting, made me almost hyperventilate.
There were beautiful cacti available – Agave americana ‘Variegata’, a unique species of prickly pear, Cereus peruvianus AND my favorite – Lophocereus shottii ‘Monstrosus’.
My client had received these cuttings from her next door neighbor who had just pruned back some of her cacti. It turned out the neighbor had a beautiful garden that has been featured in several magazines, including Phoenix Home & Garden.
I explained to my client where she could use the cuttings and explained the benefits of each one. When I mentioned that the Lophocereus was my favorite type of cacti, she offered to give me one.
Despite my desire for this type of cacti, I was hesitant to accept, but my client was insistent.
So, I picked out the smallest one and drove home.
On my way home, I thought about where I wanted to put my new cactus.
I finally decided on putting it in my front landscape in the large area to the side of the driveway.
Planting cactus cuttings is extremely easy and the hole doesn’t have to be big.
We planted my new cactus cutting so that the bottom 6 inches were buried.
Taking cuttings from cacti of all types is a fairly simple process, there are some guidelines that you need to follow.
A couple of years ago, I wrote about giving a cutting from our Mexican fence post cactus to our neighbor with step-by-step instructions that you can see here.
Our neighbor’s cactus has been in the ground for 2 years now and is growing so well – it’s formed two new ‘arms’.
I can hardly wait to see how my newest cactus grows!
How about you? Have you ever given or planted a cactus cutting?
Church Landscape Renovation 1 Year After…
AZ Plant Lady, UncategorizedDo you enjoy seeing “before and after” photos?
I do – especially with landscapes.
Just over a year ago, I was asked to help renovate a local church’s landscape.
As you can see their landscape had become rather bare as plants had not been replaced over the years. In addition, there were some old plants that needed replacing.
So, I got to work on a new design. When renovating an existing landscape, it’s important to determine which existing plants to keep. I rarely get rid of all the plants since mature plants help anchor a new landscape while the new plants take time to fill in and grow. Also, why waste a perfectly good plant as long as it is still attractive and can fit into your design? You can always create a design to go with an existing plant.
A year after being installed, I was asked to come back to work on a different area of the church, During that time, I took some “after” pictures of what the landscape looks like now.
Church Landscape Renovation
This area was filled with two old shrubs, which we elected to keep.
Some contouring (mounding) was added for elevation and river rock washes were added for drainage.
Church Landscape Renovation
And this is what it looks like 1 year later. Flowering feathery cassia(Senna artemisioides) adds color in winter and spring. Year round color is supplied by angelita daisies(Tetraneuris acaulis) and ‘Blue Bells’ (Eremophila hygrophana).
Agave and boulders will add texture contrast.
In this area, I tagged two struggling shrubs with paint for removal along with a yucca plant that the church landscape committee wanted removed due to it poking people with its sharp leaves as they walked by.
The Mexican bird-of-paradise (Caesalpinia mexicana) tree would remain in this area.
Church Landscape Renovation
The small wash was redone, which serves double duty – it adds a decorative element to the landscape and helps channel water from the roof.
Golden barrel cacti(Echinocactus grusonii) were planted in the corner where they will lend sunny yellow color all year long. ‘Blue bell’ shrubs complete the planting in this area.
While pink fairy duster (Calliandra eriophylla) is a beautiful desert shrub in spring, it makes a poor hedge. In addition, it does not flower 9 months of the year. A plant that would look great throughout the majority of the year was needed in this area.
Ornamental grasses fit the bill perfectly in this area. Pink muhly (Muhlenbergia capillaris) is green from spring through summer and puts on a show in fall when burgundy plumes appear that fade to an attractive wheat color in winter. Instead of a hedge, which would need pruning throughout the year, pink muhly needs pruning once, in spring.
This area had a few sage shrubs, a single red yucca and a barrel cactus.
I had everything removed in this bed except for the barrel cactus. The church had a large number of old Texas sage shrubs (Leucophyllum frutescens ‘Green Cloud’). The reason that I had many of these taken out was because a the majority of the members of this church are winter visitors. Texas sage flowers in summer and early fall when they are gone. I was asked to add plants that would provide winter and spring color.
Now this area is filled with feathery cassia and Valentine bush (Eremophila maculata ‘Valentine), both of which flower in winter and spring. Desert spoon (Dasylirion wheeleri) adds both color and texture contrast and ‘Blue bell’ shrubs will add colorful flowers throughout the entire year.
This corner section of the landscape was filled with formally pruned shrubs that offered little beauty to the area.
The ocotillo and yucca remained and angelita daisies, ‘Blue Bell’ and feathery cassia were added.
I must admit that I was quite pleased at how everything looked. It’s one thing to create a design on paper and another thing entirely to see it growing in beautifully.
On a slightly different note, I also took time to check on the streetside landscape by the church that I had designed 2 years ago.
In the beginning, there was nothing there but an old cactus or two.
What a difference 2 years makes! A young palo blanco tree(Acacia willardiana) grows among feathery cassia, Valentine and purple trailing lantana.
The plant palette for the church mirrored that of the street landscape for a visually seamless transition.
Along this section fo the street, all that was present were 3 Agave americana and utility boxes.
The agave were relocated along this stretch of road with trees and colorful shrubs. You can hardly see the utility boxes now.
Thank you for letting me share with you some of my favorite “before and after” photos. Learn more about the plants that I used in this project by clicking their names: ‘Blue Bell’ shrubs, feathery cassia, Valentine bush and pink muhly grass.
*Do you have an area in your landscape that needs a little help? Take some time and drive around and take pictures of landscapes that you like. Then take them to your local nursery or landscape professional and have them help you renovate your landscape.
Beautiful and Fuss-Free: Lady Banks Rose
Southwest garden, UncategorizedDo you love roses?
I do.
While most people will tell you that they love roses, they probably do not like the extra maintenance that they require with repeated fertilizing, deadheading, and fighting damaging insects, and fungal diseases.
Well, let me introduce you to a rose that is beautiful and low-maintenance.
Lady Banks rose may be well-known to a few of you and it is worth a second look for those of you who love roses but not the fuss.
They are resistant to damaging bugs and most fungal diseases leave them alone. However, unlike many modern roses, they flower once a year in spring, producing a glorious show.
If you’ve ever heard of the World’s Largest Rose Bush in Tombstone, Arizona – it may interest you to find out that it is a Lady Banks rose.
You can read more about my visit to this historic rose bush, here.
There is so much to enjoy with this beautiful, fuss-free rose.
Winter…What Winter?
Flowering Annuals, Uncategorizedsigns of our warm winter
While much of the country is suffering from a truly awful winter season, those of us who live in the Southwest are having the exact opposite problem.
This has been a very warm winter season, with the exception of a few freezing nights back in December.
With temps 10 – 15 degrees above normal, we have been enjoying temps in the ’70s.
I have seen some signs of our warm winter including the fact that I have ditched my slippers and am going barefoot every chance I get. Plants have begun to emerge from their winter dormancy and people are asking me if they can prune their frost-damaged plants early.
In regards to the pruning question, there is still a chance of Southwestern residents getting a spell of freezing weather before we approach the average last frost date. So, pruning too early can actually hurt your plants if by some miracle temps dip below 32 degrees.
But, that may not stop everyone from grabbing the pruners. If you happen to be one of these impatient pruners, make sure that you cover your recently pruned plants if temps dip into the low 30s.
In the meantime, enjoy the glorious weather!
Trying New Things In My Winter Garden: ‘White Icicle’ Radishes & Swiss Chard
Friday on the Farm: Apple Blossoms, Cabbage and Chickens
az plant lady family, Double S Farms, UncategorizedYesterday, I spent the morning on the family farm pruning apple trees.
It was a nice break from a very busy week of landscape consulting and I was looking forward to spending time with my mother, who resides on Double S Farms with my youngest sister and her family.
The sun was rising up in the sky and the day promised warm temperatures in the upper 70’s with our unseasonably warm winter.
Now at this point, you may be noticing that the trees were already in flower and that we were getting to pruning them a bit late in the season. Ideally fruit trees are pruned just before the buds begin to open.
But, even though we were pruning them late, it won’t make a huge difference and will improve the size and quality of our apple crop.
You’ll notice that the apple trees are located behind a wire fence. Well, there is a good reason for that…
And their names are Sodapop and Johnny.
Soda is the daughter of our dog Missy, who passed away last year at the age of 13.
Johnny is a 3-legged doberman rescue dog who is so friendly and exuberant.
You see, the dogs love to eat the apples from the trees. Especially Soda who does her best to reach them up high.
You can read about Soda’s previous exploits here.
The problem is that the seeds of apples contain small amounts of cyanide and if dogs consume too many, they can have problems. So the fence is up, much to the dismay of Soda and Johnny.
Pruning trees is one of my favorite things to do and although as a certified arborist, I talk to my clients a lot about trees, I don’t prune their trees. Instead I give them advice on how to prune them their selves or refer them to a certified arborist company who does it for them. So, my tree pruning is primarily focused on my own and my family’s.
Armed with a pair of loppers, hand pruners and a pruning saw, I took a moment before beginning to smell the sweet fragrance of the apple blossoms.
In the midst of our pruning, my granddaughter, Lily, showed up. She proved to be a good helper and moved the small branches into a pile.
We focused on cleaning out the interior branches, which are hard to get pick apples from. In addition, we also pruned off some of the taller branches so that come apple-picking time, we could more easily reach them. Once we finished, we had pruned away a quarter of the tree, which will allow it to focus its resources on growing the remaining flowers, which will turn into apples.
For info on how we have pruned fruit trees in the past, click here.
My mother took a few of the cut branches and brought them inside and put them in a vase where they will offer beauty and fragrance indoors for a few days.
Now it was time to turn our attention to the vegetable gardens. My mother has two large, raised beds where she grows a variety of delicious vegetables.
Lily wanted to feed the chickens some lettuce from the garden.
The resident chickens of Double S Farms, love lettuce.
Next, great-grandma needed Lily’s help to pick a cabbage from the garden. It was huge! I only wish that I liked cabbage.
I asked my mother how she uses it and she told me that she uses it in soups, but blends it ahead of time so no one knows that it is in there.
Lily wondered if the chickens would like cabbage and it turned out that they liked it better than the lettuce.
Before leaving the gardens, Lily had to pick a flower. Like many little girls, she loves flowers and carries them around smelling their fragrance.
The white petunias belong to Finley, my nephew, who gets a small plot in the vegetable gardens to plant what he likes.
As we got ready to leave, I noticed a beautiful, little bouquet made up of petunias on the kitchen table. Who knew that petunias could make such a sweet bouquet?
Visits to the family farm are always refreshing and it was great to enjoy a morning out in the sunshine gardening.
Got Lemons? Make Your Own DIY Citrus Salt
Citrus, UncategorizedDo you have a lemon or other type of citrus tree growing in your backyard?
Chances are, if you live in California, the Southwest or Southeastern United States, you do or your neighbor does.
While many people throughout the rest of the nation are waiting for snow to disappear, we get to enjoy the sight of colorful citrus fruit hanging from our trees, just ready to be picked and enjoyed.
During this time of year, neighbors give bags of excess fruit to neighbors or local food banks.
I have a young lemon tree, that isn’t old enough to produce fruit for me, but that hasn’t stopped me from having lemons to use.
Between my mother’s prolific lemon tree on the family farm to those from my vet (who happens to be our neighbor), I have plenty to use.
I’ve used lemons in a variety of ways from freezing the zest, the juice, making citrus cleaner, natural air fresheners and was looking for another way to use them.
I recently learned about lemon salt and how great it tastes on my favorite dishes – chicken, fish, homemade salad dressings, salsa and much more – basically anything that you want to add a hint of citrus and salt too.
Making lemon salt is very easy to do and can be done using grapefruit, limes, or oranges instead.
Citrus salts make a great homemade gift and are also a great way to preserve the taste of your favorite citrus when they are no longer in season.
Whether you grow your own lemons or buy them from the store, lemon salt is easy to make.
1. You’ll need 3 lemons and 1 cup of kosher salt.
2. Zest 3 lemons.
3. Add together 1 cup kosher salt, the lemon zest and the juice from 1 lemon.
(Of course, you can make a lot more, like I did – I had a lot of lemons and wanted to make some as gifts.)
4. Mix together the lemon juice, salt and zest.
5. Pour the lemon salt mixture into a shallow baking dish or cookie sheet.
6. Place in a 200 degree F. oven for a half hour. Then lightly mix it up and bake for another 20 minutes.
(If it hasn’t dried all the way, cover it with a clean dish towel and let sit overnight.)
7. Use your fingers to break up any large clumps or you can put it in your food processor and pulse it 2 – 3 times.
That’s it! I told you it was easy. You can use it right away or store it in a sealed jar to keep it for longer.
Lemon or salts made from other citrus fruit last a long time – at least a year if put in a sealed container.
If you love lemon pepper, you can simply add pepper to the mixture for a delicious addition to your steak!
I’ve been enjoying making flavored salts for cooking with. Last year, I made basil and herb salts, which were delicious too!
Got Frost-Damaged Plants? How and When to Prune…
azplantlady, Pruning, UncategorizedDo you enjoy winter?
I do. Surprisingly, the desert Southwest has definite seasons and winters can get cold with temps dipping into the 20s.
Photo: Frost-damaged natal plum
Unfortunately, the cold temperatures can wreak havoc on our frost-tender plants such as bougainvillea, lantana, and yellow bells – to name a few.
Let’s face it, no one likes the sight of brown, crispy, frost-damaged plants in the landscape – including me. Often, my first impulse is to prune off the ugly growth – but, I have to remind myself that I can actually do more damage by pruning too early.
Learn what plants are most commonly affected by frost damage, when to prune, and how in my latest article for Houzz.com
I hope your week is off to a great start!